Welcome to rejectingPERFECTION! First and foremost a disclaimer: I am unapologetically a perfectionist. I am the first child of two first children and a type A person to the extreme. But as the blog title suggests I am working to embrace the parts of my personality that work, and reject or reevaluate the things that hold me back.
The idea for this blog came from a lot of soul searching in the months before my 30th birthday this January. I spent a lot of time wondering what it meant to me to be 30. Had I accomplished what I had expected? Was I happy with where I was in life? What were my goals in this new decade? As someone who has struggled continually with perfectionism my answers were mixed. As someone who lives with mild anxiety and depression the answers depended on the day…
Somehow this milestone had always been a significant life event in my head. For many years it had seemed far off, but all of a sudden I felt I was no longer a “young adult,” real life had arrived. I thought back to the “Life Map” assignment I had completed in 10th grade Family Life class and realized the 15 year old version of myself had some pretty lofty goals, and was mired in all kinds of social and gender norms… No magical transformation happened on January 25th at 5:00pm, but a transformation in my thinking happened over the months leading up to that date.
In talking this all over the night before one of my oldest friends had her 30th, a week before mine, I realized I wasn’t the only person having this “existential crisis.” We jokingly talked about starting blogs as we took on our third decade, but eventually I realized a blog might be just the thing to share my take on the ups and downs of taking on life as a fit, fab, fierce, and feminist female in her 30s and beyond.